Do you feel your relationship is not working out as you had always wished or the way you had imagined?
Do you have arguments and fights more than pleasant moments in your relationship?
We really need to break the ‘fairytale relationship’ bubble and see the world the way it is! Most problems start once we land on Ground from cloud 9. We can’t accept the realities because we have always imagined relationships as we see in movies, read in stories, with all roses and no thorns. We obviously don’t know where to look for an ideal relationship.
But, do we have any standard protocol to measure the success of a relationship or to make a relationship ideal?
NO, we cannot have a standard protocol because every relationship is different; it is as individual as individuals in a relationship. Once we try to understand different people, we can understand our own and other’s relationships too. Does it sound very difficult? But actually it is not. Let’s try to understand the relationship we are in, to maintain them and improve them.
To improve any relationship, it is mandatory to know yourself first. Ask yourself these simple questions and write down their answers.
- How am I as an individual? Who am I?
- What are my strengths and weaknesses?
Once you get answers to these questions, you have taken the first step towards understanding and improving your relationship.
KNOW YOUR PARTNER
It is as mandatory to know your partner as it is to know your own self. Again, ask yourself these simple questions and write them down.
- How is he/she as an individual?
- What are his/her strengths and weaknesses?
- How different is he/she from you? (Which includes nature, lifestyle, culture, etc?)
Once you know in detail about yourself & your partner, you can easily know the origin of your discrepancies, your difference of opinions and origin of arguments. The most important thing in any relationship is accepting your partner as he/she is. Knowing your partner is a pre-requisite. Once you know and accept your partner, you can actually predict/know his/her behaviour in any situations and you won’t be disturbed by that because you are already aware of it.
As we know, introspection is important for any person to grow, relationship-spection is equally important for any relationship to grow.
- Am I happy in this relationship?
- If not, what are the reasons for my unhappiness?
- What are my expectations out of this relationship?
- Where do I want to take this relationship?
- Is he/she (partner) happy in this relationship?
- If not, what are the reasons for his/her unhappiness?
- What are his/her expectations from this relationship?
- Where does he/she want to take this relationship?
Answers to these questions will give a fair idea about where your relationship is!!
Now the question comes, how do I improve my relationship after knowing these things?
To improve any relationship, efforts are required from both sides. It can’t be a one-way road to travel. Both partners have to travel together. Here are some tips on how to revive your relationship and make it candid again.
Your relationship-spection will definitely guide you where your problems originate. You both have to understand each other’s needs and expectations from the relationship and need to come on the same page in understanding the reasons behind your needs and expectations. You have to mutually accept each other’s needs and help in fulfilling them because till basic needs of any relationship are not satisfied, frictions will be there and relationship cannot grow further. Once the opposite person understands that you understand his/her needs and co-operate in fulfilling them, your relationship will grow. To simplify this further, you just need to understand your and each other’s expectations from this relationship and understand the reasons behind it. Once you are aware of the reason behind your own expectations and others, the vicious cycle of (expectations – not getting fulfilled – disappointment – quarrels and arguments – more expectations….and so on) will break. You will be able to understand yourself and your relationship better.
The ultimate key: ACCEPTANCE
Accepting the differences, similarities, socio-economic, cultural aspects of your partner is the ultimate key to improve any relationship. If both the individuals involved in a relationship think about each other’s happiness, both will be taken care of and both will be happy as the relationship will become selfless.
We focus too much on our needs. We just have to think about the other person and we will see the change happening in us and our relationship.
Stop comparing your partner and your relationship with others. This applies not only to romantic relationships but also on all the relationships you have in your life.
Relationships should make you grow in every aspect! It should be transparent and free-flowing from both sides. A relationship which suppresses obstructs your growth and makes you weaker have quite negative impacts on your personality and steps should be taken to either improve that relationship or come out of it.
How Homoeopathy can help in improving your relationship?
As we say, “If you want to see the world change, change yourself first”
When you give a Homoeopathic case history, it shows you who you are, your pattern of behaviour, your perception of the world, your personality. In short, it brings you closer to yourself. Homoeopathic medicines balance your personality and make you aware about your own self. It helps in a very subtle way to improve your relationships by bringing yourself to peace.
Stay Healthy! Stay Happy!
– Dr Kruti Trivedi (B.H.M.S., C.C.A.H., C.D.E.)